Being Here

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At the new year, at this time of new beginnings, it is easy for the mind to step in and create all kinds of expectations and projections. Setting goals or resolutions about what could be, what you should chase after, what you hope and dream will happen, what you think you want, all based upon the mind’s interpretations of life. The dilemma is that those interpretations never seem to deliver something of genuine value.

For those of us who are actively experimenting with the strategy of our design and our Inner Authority, the new beginning of the year can bring something quite different: the experiment of being here. What is my life like when I let go of projections about the future, and learn to be present? What is my life like when I wait and discover what life brings, moment by moment?

When we begin our HD experiment, for many of us, we cannot begin to fathom the fullness of waiting – it seems to the mind that waiting is boring, that It is empty. This is because the mind thinks that waiting is waiting for something specific, something that should be chased after, something that we want to have happen. That’s not waiting, that’s expectation. And, as we discover if we are fortunate, expectation is pretty boring and empty.

There is a luxury in waiting. Ra said it best: waiting as an active state of awareness. It’s a moment by moment relaxation into the fullness that life is – not what it could be or could bring, but what it is, in all of its infinite variety. Whether it is being present to brushing our teeth, or gazing out the window, life is full, it is breathing through us.

What holds us back at times, is fear. Fear of the future: What if this happens? What if that doesn’t happen? The mind can create quite a story to justify projections and expectations, swirled with a false-sense of urgency that can create anxiety. Then the mind can get busy trying to figure out how to avoid the fear and anxiety, and suddenly, we are off and running with plans about the future, rather than being present, here, now.

The key that Dharmen and I have discovered, is to come back to the body. Is the fear actually happening right now? Is that thing that my mind is scaring me with, actually taking place? And, if it is taking place, is my body ok? (mostly, it is not actually taking place…just a scary little movie that the mind is projecting…)

Is the body ok? Is the body relaxed and at ease? If not, is there a physical adjustment that can be made, so that the body feels relaxed and at ease? Is the body ok with not being relaxed and at ease? Can we observe the body’s pain, and not turn it into a story of suffering?

Something that not many of us have discovered: It begins with learning how to be present to the body. Not what the mind thinks the body should be or could be; but rather: what is the body’s experience right now? Each of us are trained to pay attention to our thinking, and to ignore the body. The dilemma is that awareness is not found in our thinking, but it is found when we connect with our body’s consciousness. And that is a moment by moment experience.

Not many of us may realize: each of us have a unique way to be present. It is built in to our HD mechanics, in our variables. This is why we offer the Transformation Course series, to help each individual access and become grounded in their unique way of being present.

The mind would like to think that awareness, that being awake, is one and done. That when we discover our way of being present, then we’re done. That one experience of awareness, should become always aware. That’s not life. Life comes and it goes, awareness comes and it goes. It is not a static thing, being here. It is a dynamic process of settling into the body/mind vehicle and learning our unique way of being present, and discovering the beauty of being here, moment by moment.

Leela & Dharmen

Leela - My Relationship With Human Design

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Since the moment of my reading in 1999, I’ve known that the search was over, and that I had found my path to myself. Human Design gave me a road map for my life, and I've been exploring my unique pathway ever since. I am a triple-split unconscious emotional authority Generator. 

I’d like to say that it was easy to integrate my strategy and authority into my life, but it wasn’t. Slowly, over time, I began to recognize that I only take in life when I'm silent; I’m a slow learner, and I have a slow frequency from which I operate best, waiting for that space of balance, of equanimity in my emotional wave. This was all a revelation for me. As a child, I was conditioned to be a quick learner, to always be at the head of the class, and to get my work done as quickly as possible, so I’d be ready for the next thing.

It was two years into my experiment before I realized how it felt to make an emotionally correct decision, and it was a decision that took over three months to make. It required a lot of slowing down, and a deep commitment to staying with the process, to take that much time in the gap of not taking action. 

Learning to not rush into doing, to really wait until there was no emotional disturbance in the decision, either positive or negative, was an enormous effort, and a long process. But the results continue to be incredible. To make a life-choice without doubt or fear, to move forward with satisfaction and no regret, to trust and surrender 100% to the decision, and not be excited or terrified of the outcome, and to meet the flow of life rather than resistance brings a spaciousness and relaxation in my life that I had never felt prior to my experiment with Human Design.

It’s been an amazing journey from there – to go from making one correct decision, to gradually becoming aware of my own unique frequency, the felt-sense of awareness of being present to my life. I can’t say the process has been easy, or that there has been a steady progress – because that’s not my way. My journey has been a process of plateaus, hitting walls and breakthroughs. Periods of time when my life was going along at a certain level and then hitting the wall, over and over and over; then another breakthrough, a long plateau and then hitting another wall, eventual breakthrough, and so on.

My Professional Background
I am a PHS Analyst and Practitioner, a Living Design Guide, Radical Transformation Variable Teacher, and a Certification Teacher in Child Development Analysis, and Family Practice Coaching. My Human Design education was exclusively with Ra Uru Hu, and I consider him my teacher. I completed the Variable Teacher Training Certification program with Ra in 2010, the only time he taught this particular teacher certification.

My professional skills are in business management, marketing, and business development. For 20 years, I worked primarily in the Natural Foods industry: from managing Natural Food stores, opening stores for a national natural grocery chain, training staff in everything from customer service to counseling customers in vitamins, supplements and herbs. I also directed sales for a homeopathic company, as well as directed operations for a chain of retail pharmacies with a natural wellness focus.

I have also been an entrepreneur my entire work career - starting diverse businesses such as a publishing company to training independent business owners in sales and business management skills.

Dharmen - My relationship with Human Design

Dharmen Swann-Herbert 1/3 Reflector on the Right Angle Cross of the Unexpected

Dharmen Swann-Herbert 1/3 Reflector on the Right Angle Cross of the Unexpected

My relationship with Human Design is simply my relationship with myself. As a 1/3 Reflector, I have a deeply investigative personality, which has translated into a profound and authoritative study of Human Design Analysis, Rave Cartography, Rave Psychology, and currently, The Wisdom of Openness.

Human Design literally saved my life. When I found Human Design, my life wasn’t working. It hadn’t really worked ever - my various careers, living in spiritual communes and communities, monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, raising kids, starting businesses that failed – you name it. I’d tried it, and it ultimately did not work. Since that moment of my reading in 1999, I have lived this life as myself, and I haven’t looked back. I truly discovered my true home – my true self. 

I am a Reflector. This knowledge was transforming. No wonder nothing worked in my life. No wonder I always felt I was living on shifting sand, and nobody ever saw the real me; and, I did not know the real me. Without the understanding of my strategy and authority, there was no way for my life to work properly. In my study of Human Design, I’ve investigated deeply, and have found for myself the truth of the experiment. What I can say now, nearing the end of my third 7-year cycle in my experiment, and having lived with cancer, heart disease, and diabetes, is that life works, and I am riding the wave of its beauty and grace as the unique being that is me.

Reflectors are the only type who can truly surf the daily transits, for whom the conditioning of The Program is correct. In this way, I take in the transits very deeply. This gives me a deep affinity to the work of coaching individuals. I literally observe my vehicle riding along the conditioning as we transit through the years, and I bring this depth of understanding to my work. It is my hope that as a coach and guide, that I am able to share with you the truth of this experience. For Reflectors finding themselves, I offer my mastery of the mechanics of awareness, if you want to go deeply into your experiment.

My Professional Background
I have a professional background in coaching, training and development, and have taught over 600 workshops world-wide over 40 years prior to becoming a Human Design Analyst and Teacher. I have been a student of Human Design for over 19 years. I am a certified Human Design Analyst, Human Design Color Analyst, Rave Psychologist, Living Design Guide, Certification Teacher for Child Development Analysts and Family Practice Coaches. Over the years of my Human Design education, I had the good fortune to have Ra Uru Hu as my teacher.

My work as a Human Design Professional Teacher and Coach 
My favorite aspect of working with individuals is to help them actualize the information, to realize the mechanics of Human Design in their experience. A reading is a finger pointing to the potential experience of the self; it is not the actual experience. I bring a unique viewpoint to my work: with no personal definition, I am wide open, and bring the depth of that wisdom of openness. What people get with my coaching and classes is their unique self, not me. I offer Partnership Coaching and Child Development Coaching with my partner, Leela. As a Reflector, I am particularly suited to personal coaching with new and actively experimenting Reflectors, but I enjoy working with any type.

Teaching Human Design Students
What is most important for me, is what the individual takes away from coaching or classes, and then experiments with, in their own life. I’m not interested in teaching for the sake of having people listen to me. I’m here to help people wake up to what their lives can be; how to enjoy living the unique being that they’ve been given in this life through Human Design. 

Having been an educator and trainer for most of my life, I bring many skills to the teaching environment that ensures the individual gets the most out of the experience.  Although I may have an outline of material that will be covered in the workshop or course, I work with what the individuals bring to the process as well. Workshops and courses, in order to be effective, must provide the opportunity for realization. Real learning is what excites me, not rote repetition of facts.

Teaching is dynamic – and being a Reflector, I have the ability to accurately reflect what is going on with the group, to know where people are at, and help guide them to where they actually want to be. Understand this, as it is an important distinction: I’m here to guide people, not to where I want them to be, but where they need to be. I’m here to help you uncover the truth that you are, not to tell you what your truth is, but to create an environment where you discover your truth.